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Why we’re not piercing The Potato’s ears

“So when are you piercing her ears?”

So in an apparently controversial move, we have decided to not pierce The Potato’s ears when she is a baby. The Husband is easy either way but I feel quite strongly about it. I guess, it’s probably because I am not big on earrings myself. When I was younger, I had my ears pierced they got infected and I had to let the holes close.

Then when I was 18, I had them redone because I really wanted to wear earrings and clip ones are PAINFUL. And while I still have the holes, I rarely wear earrings anymore. Mostly because babies are fond of pulling on them and the thought of a torn earlobes freaks me out.

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Here’s the thing: it’s her body and who am I to make decisions about it. I am her mother. It is my job to protect, keep her body clean and teach her to look after it. Beyond that, it’s not my choice what she does with the body, God gave her.

Also, I don’t have the time, patience or inclination to keep freshly pierced ears clean and she will probably tug at them the entire time with her grubby, dirty hands. No, thanks!

Now, some people would call me a hypocrite and argue that we circumcised The Munchkin and he didn’t make that decision. But boys being circumcised is dictated to us in the Quraan. It’s a religious thing. Piercing girls ears is not. That’s pure aesthetics. And honestly guys, my daughter is beautiful enough, she does not need earrings to make her pretty.

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Honestly, I’m in awe of her beauty on the daily.

 

If not now, then when?

When she asks for it and she understands what it entails, including taking care of them. It’s really that simple. I want her to make the decision.

People have tried to argue me into doing it, “But it heals so much quicker when they’re small” and “She won’t even remember it”. Still not my body to be making choices about. Earring holes don’t take 5 million years to heal when you’re older and not remembering it, is really a poor reason.

No judgies though!

But y’all, I’m not judging if you have had your baby’s ears pierced because I am a firm believer of live and let live. Motherhood is fraught with judgement and I am not here to add to that conversation. Eff that for a laugh. I believe mothers should all support each other in their decisions because this parenting thing is a freaking guessing game from one day to the next. I don’t have all the answers and I don’t always make the right decisions. But I do make them thoughtfully and I’m trying my best. The Husband and I often have long conversations about our kids and how the heck we can do better by them.

Your baby, your choice. I am not going around convincing people to not pierce their baby’s ears and saying it’s child abuse (I have legit heard people say this and those people need to calm the heck down). I do not for one millisecond think that you’re a bad parent for doing so. Or that you’ve scarred your kid for life. I think that you made the most informed choice for you and your kid and I fully support that.

But I  really, REALLY wish people would stop trying to guilt and cajole me into doing it.

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6 Comments

  1. Shante

    January 23, 2018 at 1:02 pm

    I’ve never understood piercing a baby’s ears because it just feels like such hard work….it also feels like you’re cashing in one of your birthday gift ideas. If she already has them pierced, she can’t come to you at 12 and ask for them to be done and that makes me feel a little sad. So, I totally get your reasons and I’m so on board with them.

    1. Zayaan Schroeder

      January 23, 2018 at 1:22 pm

      Yes! I can’t deal with another thing that I have to keep clean on this child. She is honestly just so flippinng messy. Haha, yes, to the birthday gift idea! Putting that one in my pocket.

  2. Letitia Venter

    January 23, 2018 at 4:20 pm

    I love this! Yes! I feel exactly the same with regards to waiting until she asks for it before having it done. I also feel that it is her body to decide on.

    1. Zayaan Schroeder

      January 23, 2018 at 8:44 pm

      It will be something she remembers!

  3. Melissa Javan

    January 24, 2018 at 6:21 am

    I’m with you on this. I pierced my own ears when I was 14 I think. So I feel my daughter can do it when she feels to. It will be exciting for her when she decides to – it was for me then.

    1. Zayaan Schroeder

      January 24, 2018 at 8:04 pm

      Indeed! It will be a nice mommy-daughter bonding experience. I hope!

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