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The pros and cons of co-sleeping

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We’ve had The Munchkin in our room from the beginning. At first in his Moses basket pulled right up to our bed and very often in those early days we’d keep him in bed with us. I was so overwhelmed with it all that even the Moses basket was too far for me. Especially since he was sleeping in there once and the blanket had gone over his face and I freaked out.

But The Husband and I were not sleeping well at night. It was a light sleep because we were scared of squishing him in our sleep, even though he slept on top of the duvet swaddled in his own blanket. He went back to the Moses basket and then eventually moved up to his camp cot and when that was getting to much of a mission to lay him down to sleep we eventually moved him to a proper cot. We’re now use the camp cot as a play pen.

But then he got sick, he wasn’t sleeping or breathing well while he slept. Then winter descended and it was so much easier to bring him to bed and cuddle. Especially since I was the one getting up with him in the nights and I had to go work in the mornings. I needed my sleep so it was convenient for me to do this.

The sickness passed but now we had a Munchkin who was used to sleeping in between warm Mommy and Daddy. So it began that we tried to get him back into his cot which is at the foot of our bed.

The problem is that he wakes up periodically throughout the night for a dummy. I feel like even if I put a million dummies in his cot he would still not find is because he is so vas asleep still. And now it seems that Elsa is up to shenanigans because it has been cold as eff in Cape Town for last few days. I’ve put him in a fluffly onesie on top of his PJs and he slept quite okay considering. He only came to our bed at around 4am.

So with all this in mind I’ve thought of the pros and cons (as mostly applied to us).

Pros

  • It’s easier to put him back to sleep.
  • Baby cuddles on cold nights.
  • Not having to freeze as i rock him back to sleep on cold winter nights
  • More sleep for me! (Very important!)

Cons

  • Sometimes sleeping on the edge of the bed.
  • Getting smacked in the face.
  • Not sleeping next to The Husband.
  • Still having a disruptive sleep.
  • I sleep deeper when I don’t have to worry about him being next to me.

I know the cons outweigh the pros here. But I think the pros that ARE there seem to be of more importance than the cons. And I don’t think it’s harming anyone. And when summer comes around he probably won’t want to be surrounded by all the body heat (I hope).

He can’t possibly sleep in our bed forever, can he?

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7 Comments

  1. Ayesha Yon (@AyeshaYon)

    July 8, 2014 at 4:00 pm

    My boy slept next to me 7 months! And my husband next to my daughter…
    As cosy + convenient as it was, I moved him to his own room when I realised that the arrangement was unfair towards my husband.
    It’s a tough one!

    1. Zayaan

      July 8, 2014 at 4:07 pm

      Yeah, we have a rule that when he goes to sleep he always starts the night off in his cot and we try to keep him in there for as long as possible. Right now He’s only coming to our bed in the early hours of the morning. Progress!

  2. Nasima

    July 8, 2014 at 4:52 pm

    We are a co sleeping family! Our motto is that we don’t care who sleeps where as long as everyone has a good nights rest! We both value our sleep and made that our priority. Anees is 5 and now wants to sleep on his own bed so we’ve been enjoying Rameez in the bed with us. Things should get interesting with the new baby arriving in October. I look at Anees now and realize that they really aren’t little forever and they really won’t stay in your bed forever even though it feels like it at the time! Lol! All children do eventually want to be independant and not co exist with you( well that’s my theory anyway!) so just enjoy the cuddles and give them the security that they need when they need it the most i.e when they’re little and in the dark LoL!

    1. Zayaan

      July 8, 2014 at 5:48 pm

      I agree. The Husband and I talked about it the other day and we both don’t mind him coming to the bed when he needs to because for most of the night he’s in his cot so it’s not that big a deal. And at the end of the day if that’s how I get a good night’s sleep then so be it.

  3. Cindy

    July 10, 2014 at 2:35 pm

    We never really encouraged co-sleeping with the girls, but with Knox he is in our bed every night. He goes to sleep in his own bed, but wakes any time from 12 – 4 and we just bring him to our bed. I think it’s because he’s our last baby we don’t mind. Also as long as he sleeps well in the beginning of the night the hubs and I still get some cuddle time together. so it’s OK. 🙂

    1. Zayaan

      July 10, 2014 at 2:54 pm

      That’s EXACTLY the situation we have now. Although for the last 2 night’s he’s been in his own cot, all night!

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