Parenting

Have you ever been so angry that you bit a wall?

This morning was one of those tough parenting days. I pretty much failed. It went down a little something like this:

 

Now while biting a wall is a little bit hilarious it’s also not because while I sat there feeding the baby, I was watching my son be so frustrated that he bit a wall!!

We’ve become increasingly more dictatorial like with him and it’s not fun. There’s so much shouting all the time, the constant whining, crying and tantrums. We’re “grumpy with him” all the time. And at least once a day he walks away, slumping his shoulders and says “I’m sad with you!” And it breaks my heart because I love this boy so much but we’re constantly locking horns.

He just doesn’t listen though, and it’s infuriating! My well of patience is so low but I’m the adult in this situation so I need to be the better person here.

I felt bad the entire day and all I wanted to do was run home and hug him and tell him how sorry I was. So, The Husband and I had a talk about how we deal with him and this evening I spent some quality time with him. Because I think a lot of it is him missing me and having to share me with the baby.

We listened to songs from the Moana soundtrack (Maui is his new favourite guy). We didn’t shout but we didn’t let him get away with things. We asked nicely (a few hundred times) and things got done. 

I got a fizzball from work and gave it to him for bath time which was a lot of fun. We played in the water and had a lovely chat. He got dressed with a minimal amount of drama and while he dragged his feet eating supper, he eventually finished it all. 

He even got into bed without protest and as I lay with my arms around him, my heart broke and how crap I’m treating this little guy who I waited 5 years for. We made promises to be nicer to each other tomorrow, and he’s probably going to forget as soon as I say no to something but I’m going to try to keep up my end of the bargain.

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5 Comments

  1. Robyn van der Merwe

    February 23, 2017 at 9:37 pm

    1. I remember Kim going through this with Luke too. It’s so hard for the little ones to understand that they’re not being replaced. But…

    2. The fact that you recognise the changes and you try and make a change when you do means you’re the best mommy R could ask for. He’ll be just fine and so will you. It just takes a little time. He won’t remember the tantrums and shouting but he’ll remember the hugs and chats in the bath and snuggles before bed. X

  2. Tara

    February 24, 2017 at 8:25 am

    Every day. Every day. OK B hasn’t bitten a wall but the slumped shoulders and “I’m sad” yes that. All of it.
    It’s so hard.
    Sending strength and love and patience xx

  3. Heather

    March 2, 2017 at 9:54 pm

    Ah I feel your pain. Sometimes you just get pushed to the max beyond what you can handle. But I am good at making up too even if I do explode! Bath time sounds like a good time to do this.

  4. Cindy Alfino

    March 3, 2017 at 1:26 pm

    I know those days all too well. It’s so hard being a parent. But I think you’re nailing it!

  5. Laura

    March 4, 2017 at 8:04 am

    Ah man! It is hard! Some days are SO hard! But some days we do get it right 🙂 Focus on those days!

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