Baby essentials I didn’t use with my 2nd kid
Becoming a mother the second time around I was a lot more chilled because I knew what to expect. Even though Rushdi was a relatively easy baby (aside from the constant vomiting), we still got ALL THE THINGS, because that is just the thing you do when you’re a first time parent. You just don’t know what you’re going to need.
But now that Daariya is essentially a toddler, I’ve had time to reflect over the last two years about all the baby essentials we didn’t even bother to use with her.
Parents these days are confronted with so many gadgets and gizmos in baby shops and at various baby expos these days that it can be overwhelming. But aside from the crazy gadgets like the machine that make your baby’s bottle with the touch of a button, there were other essential things that I found we didn’t even use.
Yes, we used towels to dry our child after we bathed her. We’re not savages. And hooded baby towels are one of the more common baby essentials you’ll find on any list.
Rushdi was a very vomity baby. He was what they called a happy vomiter, even though he was the only one happy about it. And those narrow burp cloths that are all the rage now that you gooi so over your shoulder were no protection from this dude’s upchuck. It was everywhere, all over the place and at random. When we packed him into his car seat he would get a towel thrown over him for protection. We laid down towels wherever he did.
Daariya was not a vomiter at all except the usual little bits after a feed sometimes. So we used a lot less towels with her. But also, I just find baby hooded towels useless. They outgrow them so fast and now 2 years later we’re left with a whole bunch of towels that no longer cover her when we take her out of the bath.
I would suggest getting a bath apron like this one from Lily ‘n Jack. This thing is huge and still covers Rushdi at 5 years old. Another one that’s great are these Toddler Towels from Moo Moo Kids. Both of these are a bit on the expensive side though so we only have one of each. But we also just use regular bath towels and sheets for them.
As a result of Daariya being a non-vomiter, we used a lot less bibs. I think we used a few when she was teething and drooling buckets. But that was only for a few months and she’s never worn one since. She absolutely refused bibs at feeding time and she’d rip them right off. So I would just undress her to eat. We did baby-led weaning with her, so there was so much more mess than a bib could protect from anyway.
Rushdi had a dummy till he was just over 2 years old and then he literally threw it out of the window. But by then he was sleeping well at night so I didn’t mind. I wish Daariya had taken to the dummy, and it wasn’t for lack of trying, trust me! Here’s the thing – I struggled with getting a hang of breastfeeding with Rushdi and the nurses gave me a nipple shield which became my crutch for close on to three months. I think he was used to the taste of plastic in his mouth so he took the dummy easier. When I struggled with Daariya, I got a lactation consultant in to the hospital and we didn’t have to use the shields. So I think she just hated the sensation of it compared to the good old boob.
But then I became her dummy at night and I got SO tired of it. But by the grace of God, she has seemed to wean herself off it at 23 months!
This one is purely a practical thing. When Rushdi was born we lived in a double story house and we couldn’t hear him if he cried all the way from upstairs. We’re in a much smaller place now, and I can hear when either of our kids cries from the bedrooms, so we just don’t need the monitor.
We just didn’t reach for this like we did with Rushdi. She just sat on the couch or played where she was. We also learned that it actually wasn’t a good seat for feeding them in because of the way their bodies are positioned in the thing.
Oh man, this thing is SO GOOD for getting snot out but Rushdi was so freaked of the sound and the whole experience just traumatised him so much that I just didn’t lus like going through that with Daariya. We went with the Nose Frida the second time round and while it doesn’t get as much out as the Baby Vac, it’s still gives better relief than nothing.
For Rushdi we were gifted one of those high chairs that converts into a table and chair afterwards, that Rushdi for the lack of a better word, destroyed. It just took one plastic thingie to break and it was bust. It was also a bit bulky for the space we are in now so we went for a smaller IKEA one.
It’s plain, white and plastic. Again, we did baby-led weaning and Daariya messed all over the place so I wanted something that I could wipe down easily.
With Rushdi I LOVED, nay, ADORED my baby wrap but I didn’t have a toddler bugging me to be quick. It took time to put on and I didn’t like how bulky it could be. So with Daariya I started researching baby carriers. I wanted something that was quick and easy to put on, and that could be used from birth. The thing is, if she was anything like her brother, once she found her legs she wouldn’t want to be in a carrier anymore.
After much research and trawling baby-wearing Facebook groups, I settled on the Ubuntu Baba Stage 1. And it’s honestly my most favourite baby gadget. I’m so sorry I didn’t have one when Rushdi was a baby.
Babies don’t need a lot of stuff, despite all the things on the market that try to tell you babies are complicated. They essentially need to be fed, cleaned, clothed and loved. So try not to stress too much if you’re expecting your first one and try not to buy Baby City out.